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Diane Lang

 

1. Re-train the brain with positive affirmations and daily reminders. The more positive self-talk we have, the happier we are. We can make our positive self talk into a belief and habit.  Each day say positives that work on your negatives. Example: I'm feeling sad and unsuccessful because I have been unemployed for over six months. Each morning when you wake up tell yourself how smart and successful you are. For added support say it in the morning and night. After a few weeks of saying this, it will become a habit and a belief. I have to admit the first few weeks I used this technique, I laughed at my positive talk but after 2-3 weeks of it, I believed my positive comments and it became a habit and I felt better overall.

 

2. Admit that you are having feelings of stress, anxiety, anger, etc. if you try to hide and deny the pain you will end up burying it deep inside with no outlet. The unfortunate part is it will eventually rear its ugly head. Admit to your pain and take control. This will allow you to move forward and feel powerful. If you stay in denial, you will end up feeling stale, stagnate and depressed. Once you admit your having stress, anxiety, anger, etc it allows others to come in and help. This will help relieve some of the stress.

 

3. Work on what you "CAN" control. Once you admit your painful feelings then you can move on to working on what you Can control and remove what you can't. If you continue to work on things you can't control you will become frustrated and set yourself up for failure. Write a list of everything in your life that you can't control. Take that list and do a symbolic activity to show that your removing the can't from your life. Take the list and put it through a paper shredder or throw it into your fireplace whatever will symbolize your saying goodbye to the cant's in your life. Then write a list of everything you can control. This will be the list you work on. When you work on things you can change, you are taking action.

 

4. I say this all the time but it is so true. Make sure your basic needs are met. One of the quickest ways to feel fatigued, stressed and unbalanced is when you are not taking care of yourself. make sure you eat right, sleep enough, drink plenty of water and exercise!!Walking is a quick natural way to relieve stress. if you walk 3-4 times a week, 20-30 minutes each time you will reduce your stress hormones and produce endorphins. If you want to feel even better walk outside in nature or around water and you will feel a calming affect.

 

5. Other tips: Deep breathing.- When you start feeling stress take deep breaths, it will relax you. Meditation is a great way to declutter your mind and relax. Yoga is another great way to relax. Journal writing clears the head, helps problem solve by thinking through your problems and thinking of solutions. My favorite is walking but feel free to do what works best for you or a little of each.